There’s a really shitty thing about having a disability, there’s not lots of ‘good things that happen in your life. It’s just more shit things in varying degrees of more shit.
It’s not that I’m always being negative, it’s just really hard to put a positive spin on ‘shit!’
Example; A few weeks ago I had a review for my application for Public Housing. And it seemed that all of a sudden I might not even be eligible because I earn too much! WHAT THE FUDGE???
It seems I earn $12.30 too much per week. I’m not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination. I pay my rent, I pay my bills and I get no funding. I go shopping and while I’m not extravagant I’ve started to do what I call the ‘Povo-shop’ which is to only buy the things on the shopping list and to watch the total at the register with my heart in my throat.
So you can see it’s hard to sugar coat it! It’s hard to put a positive spin on living day to day this way.
And then often friends don’t know how to respond. Trust me, I know it’s horrible, which is why I mostly don’t say anything, but if I say something, I’m not telling you so will offer to fix my problems. I don’t know what would fix my problems.
Please just have some empathy.
It looks like this; don’t say nothing, say something. It might be something really simple like this:
“I’m really sorry, it sucks! I didn’t know it was that bad, let me know if I can do anything…..”
Just so you know, I rarely ask for help, so don’t be afraid I’ll call on you for anything but a chat…