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Best Intentions

Published February 14, 2022 by helentastic67

Best Intentions

You know those things we say or do that seem offensive, racist or ageist and we didn’t intend it that way? Here’s one of those posts.

Years ago, my older sister sent me one of those really cool bags that you keep inside your bag or car, or you know, somewhere handy. When you go into a supermarket or shop you pull it out and unfold or open it to put your purchases in. Once home, unpacks fold and return it to your bag for next time. My sister called it a ‘nanna bag!’

See? Not intending to be ageist but nailing it. Nannas are not wrong, that bag was so handy, then it shrank a bit after years of torture and washing. I’ve replaced it with a new model. This one has owls on it! It’s pretty cool, I got it from Wilbur. 🙂

(20+) Wilbur | Facebook

The only problem it’s worse than trying to fold a map one handed, but I’m really lucky these days I’ve got two Japanese carers who live for this stuff.

Clap for Carers / Asian woman applauding at home in quarantine

See? Seeming racist.

Not meaning to be however, they seem to have infinite patience to fold, fold, tuck, fold and well, it seems to be their ‘Jam’. Like their ‘happy place’.

So, while not meaning to be ageist or racist, I’m noticing some vintage/nationalities have and contain certain skill sets or temperaments I don’t have and I have my own skill set and appreciate those that have the skills I lack.

Annoyingly, now I no longer have either of my Japanese carers so need a new one.


Published November 15, 2021 by helentastic67


Yesterday I had a brief experience of feeling vulnerable. It’s not my happy place, and I can generally roll with the punches. I’m stuck in my routine in many ways but I can be flexible and move things around while I’m on the fly.

But my vulnerability is I need someone in my home (a man who doesn’t know me at all outside the brain injury group we are both in) and I was wearing my ‘around the apartment’ clothes. A colored t-shirt and shorts you could see my hairy legs in. And I was in slippers (they were O.H. & S.) standard so I don’t slip over in my socks on the kitchen floor and most annoyingly, I didn’t put on a bra.

So, it is to say, I have one persona of black steel.

I know I can’t believe I even wrote that, when I’m out I want to be seen as slim, sleek, stylish, class, etc. Blah! Blah! Blah!

But when I’m at home I wear clothes, I do not wear them out. Colors, shorts. No one sees me, my carers don’t judge me, my cat doesn’t care. She looks at me weirdly when I have my hair out.

Yeah! That’s a hard pill to swallow.

That’s why I go out of my way to NOT make myself vulnerable. 


Published August 22, 2016 by helentastic67



Wax on! Wax off! OK, this is not going to be a blog about the 80’s film Karate Kid, but life is short and I covered some intense replies yesterday.

If you forgot, didn’t realise and take it all in, recapping I have less sensation on my left side, generally looking like a stroke and referred to as a Hemi. Has a longer term, but let’s start with that.

(Hemiplegia: total or partial paralysis of one side of the body that results from disease of or injury to the motor centres of the brain)


Every so often, I still like to get a leg wax. No one see’s my legs that count. But every now and again even my Carers will comment. They don’t get out of control, but word from the wise;


I try to keep an eye on them and I gauge it as;

It’s not that bad yet!

A little longer!

Start saving!

And God damn it! It’s going to hurt!

So, Fun-Fact Ladies

Things that make waxing hurt more.

Crazy lady hormones, 1 week on either side – JUST DO IT!

Stimulants! COFFEE!!!!!

Save your coffee for after waxing…

So, you would think with my ‘Hemi’ that my left leg wouldn’t hurt as much?

I should be so lucky! They fucking hurt the same!!!!!!

Today my beautician actually asked which leg I wanted waxed first. To be clear, she does them both at the same time and you rotate like a chicken on a rotisserie “thing” in an over, but the reason she asked is because I’m right handed.

Therefore the left leg will hurt more. To be clear, it’s nice to get a leg wax every now and again, even if I don’t wear shorts out of the house and only my Carers all woman see them. It’s something I do for me.

But these days, I even self-medicate for a leg wax!

I find 10mg of Oxy normal is my ‘Happy Place’ for a level of tolerance! 3 hours of pain relief while my left leg twitches is about all I can deal with.

So, there you go, 1 F** Bomb and an amazing little ditty for something different.

waxed legs

Final result…

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