This might be one of my most hated questions. Particularly now when I don’t work and have little or no ability to increase the cash-flow coming in. I think I hate it more than the ‘What have you done to your arm?’ (because I’m so immune to that one now)
When I recently went to Freedom Furniture to assess the new couch scenario and the younger gay guy asked me my budget. I’ve never worked within a budget as such. I’m more of a I need this (XYZ) it costs (XYZ) how do I make this happen? What do I love without? Can I save for it? Or lay-by it?
On the upside, I’m not an idiot, I will not do that financial trap of “Buy now and don’t pay any interest, pay it off over the next five years.”
No. No. No. Abort. Abort. Never. Never.
So, my answer to the salesperson was; any amount I can realistically ask from my father without him having a stroke.
So he walked me over to the cheaper end of the showroom. Hey! I’ve got this arm already, great. That’s rather telling isn’t it?
I should mention I upgraded my arm when I had some one-off funding and getting a two-seater with a chase haunt in the hot summer days, it was long enough for me to lie down on in the lounge with the AC on, so I could sleep.
These days, living in an apartment now, I have two bedrooms. I could live without a spare bedroom since I don’t often have guests anymore, but I couldn’t live without my study.
The definition of a study if based on my study is ‘a room for a desk, bookcase, filing cabinets and where things get stored.
So, these days if guests stay, they sleep on my couch and that definitely seems it’s got to be wide and long enough to be comfortable.
I’ve been told/accused really of being terrible at communicating. I think verbally and written I communicate my thoughts rather succinctly.
Some years ago, I was expressing this issue with a friend (let’s call him Fred). Now Fred to be clear has several TBI’s (Traumatic Brain Injury) from a car accident, but let’s not hold that against him.
He suggested I do a course he did in communications. Fred told me he had thought he was really good at communicating, but having participated in the course, he realised even he could improve.
I told him, I had no time to do a course, no cash and no ability to get to a College or University. He told me not to worry about it. It was FREE and she would come to me! What? Sounds too good to be true. Fred gave me her number and I rang her and it wasn’t an actual “Course” but I think it was more of a study. I had to explain, who I was how I had “gotten” my ABI (Acquired Brain Injury). Keeping in mind I was born with my AVM (Arterial Venus Malformation).
I thought I was having a decent conversation who actually seemed excited to be working with me. That sounded weird, but seriously.
Then she asked me when I’d had my CAR ACCIDENT?
I was not eligible for this communication course.
What’s worse than that is, this list of things.
I don’t have a communication problem
People have a hearing/listening problem.
All of these “research” trials are based on people with TBI’s because they can dip into the TAC bucket of money.
No one is doing any kinds of study on the different kinds of ABI/TBi’s and how they are different.
I think my communication is different to other types of ABI, particularly TBI (no offense to people with TBI’s). So many more things wrong with this…